When a financial institution asks me my “mother’s maiden name” as a security question. Because it’s assumed that I have at least one and no more than one mother in my life AND that she married AND that she gave up her own name AND that that part of her identity was erased enough from my public history so as to be a password to access my private information.

Holy crap, I never realized.


quearest asked:

Miss Chira, how long have you been drawing for? I adore your art and your drawing style- you're one of my favourite artists and I really look up to you! But I have a tendency to compare myself to other people, and obviously you have a lot more experience, so I was wondering how many years of art you have on me (so then I can push myself to work harder and such). Thank you for your time, and your art! I'm also really glad to see SFEER Theory back in action. I hope you have a really great day!

chirart answered:

Thanks for the compliments, those are always wonderful and I’m always happy to impress.

But as for your question/curiosity, I’m going to answer in bullet points:

  1. don’t compare yourself to others

  2. seriously, don’t do it.

  3. please. just…. don’t.

  4. I don’t really know why people ask the “how long you’ve been drawing” question, especially when the answer usually is “all my life.”

  5. and even if it isn’t “all my life,” some people improve faster than others, some improve slower than others, and that’s okay. Because people take in information differently, or because people have an easier time connecting dots in their heads at different ages, or because people may have less time to focus on their craft than others

  6. comparing yourself to people you deem as more experienced than you dehumanizes them as a marker for you to overcome. It’s not really appreciating their work. It’s not really flattering. Instead, consider asking specific techniques or advice you’d like them to share with you. People with more experience 9 times out of 10 are happy to share how they figured out that math problem with you.

  7. so don’t compare yourself to others.

  8. any answer you get — literally ANY answer — will just be used to make you chastise yourself.

  9. if you’re always worrying about “how many years of art” others have on you you’re wasting the energy you could be putting toward your work.

  10. it’s none of your business, anyway.